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I need to stop yelling at my girl so much. I never thought I'd be a snappy, gritona mom, but sometimes red bottom shoes sale I feel like that's the only way I can get my girl to pay attention, focus and, well, uggs black friday do what I want/need her to do. At age 5, it just feels like one minute I'm her "best mom ever" and the next she's warning me how I am not the cheap nfl jerseys boss of her.

The worst part is that the screaming, yelling and nagging I do are pretty much always for the same things.

It's just so obvious that my highpitched strategy is getting us nowhere. The behavior I'm cyber monday ugg boots outlet expecting from my daughter has not gotten better because what I'm doing is just being confrontational and even desperate in my attempt to "fix" a problem without digging deeper to find strategies that would be more longterm. Aha! That sounded not only like a book I needed to read yesterday, but also like an expert I must consult because she's been through what I've been: the screaming, nagging and yelling parenting cyber monday uggs on sale days that get you on a high road to nowhere.

McCready is a champion of positive parenting techniques for happier families and wellbehaved kids. She's developed strategies and methods that empower us as parents to take control, in the positive sense of the word, and cheap jerseys usa understand how to truly motivate our children to want to be on their best behavior.

"You can correct the misbehaviors quickly and permanently! But, only if you address the root cause of the behavior," says McCready, who's mom to two teenage boys. "You need more than a BandAid on symptoms you must understand what really motivates the misbehavior and have the concrete tools to address the root issue."

McCready agreed to share with us her top 10 tips to getting to the root of our child's misbehavior and turning it into better behavior, sans the nasty yelling and nagging no one can stand. Click through below for McCready's advice in her own words.

1. Spend oneonone time with kids on a daily basis

This is the most important advice I give to parents. and attention every day, and if they don't get it, consequences and other discipline tools won't be effective (not to mention the 2013 black friday uggs fact that they might resort to practicing their ninja scream indoors just to turn your head). black friday uggs Just 1015 minutes of oneonone quality time once or twice a day will do wonders to fend off negative behavior from your kids!

If Time Outs aren't working for you, take heart. It's not you and it's not your kids. Forcing a child to go to his room or the naughty chair for a prescribed period of time does nothing to teach him to make a better choice next time. For a strongwilled child, Time Out will most certainly escalate the power struggle. Instead, ask the question. "What can I do to teach him to make a better choice next time?" Focusing on training rather than punishment will almost always deliver better results.

5. Don't play judge jury in your kids' fights

Parents escalate sibling rivalry when they step in to determine who's at fault and who should receive a punishment. Taking sides creates a winner and loser and fuels competition. It also robs kids of the valuable opportunity to work out the conflict on their own. Ignore kids' squabbles whenever possible and if you need to step in, simply say, "I'm not concerned with who started it, I'm here to help you come up with a solution. What ideas do you have to resolve this problem?"

6. Be clear and simple about your family rules

First, narrow down your top 50 family rules to a handful that are most important. Then, assign a consequence, warn your kids ahead of time and stand your ground. For instance, remind kids that access to technology is a privilege, not a right, and be crystal clear about rules for a smartphone or computer. If they aren't willing to follow your family rules for technology, it goes away. Assure them the public library has rows of computers they can use for homework.

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